Death of a loved one can be very difficult to cope with, especially if it is completely sudden, as in the case of my son's death- a homicide. There is an array of emotions that is often seen , ranging from anger, fear , confusion ,shock, anxiety, numbness, panic attacks etc. These are all normal reactions, and will make some days more difficult, dark, and dismal to get through. When you don’t feel you have the strength to go on with your life, God’s grace is sufficient. He will sustain you , when no one or nothing else can. Allow Him to carry the burden – there are some things that are just too big for us to handle on our own. We cannot as mothers (and fathers) get through the loss of a child and keep our sanity without God’s help.
On a Professional Note:
Yvonne has been certified as a victim advocate, by the Office for Victims of Crime Training Technical Assistance Center. She provides peer and community support to families of homicide victims in reconstructing their lives and developing something positive out of their tragedy. Yvonne knows just how important talking one-on-one with a person who has had a loved one murdered, helps them in their grieving process .We will accompany you and your family to court and provide emotional support to help you navigate through the crisis . If you live in or near the Philadelphia area you may contact our Hotline.
Psalm 20:7 “Some trust in chariots, and some in horses: but we will remember the name
of the Lord our God.
Who hears the cries of the distraught woman drowning in her own tears?
Who comes to her rescue when life isn’t feeling so fair? Were you there?
Wrestling with the struggle to resist giving in
Many times the fight is within.
So who holds her hand?
Some trust in chariots just a ceremonial ride to life’s end, flashy and fast just a reflection of men.
Some have great faith in horses as if a stallion could heal your pain any faster.
Who feels the tears of the distraught woman brought down and fallen?
Who comes to her aid? Did you even hear her calling?
She will rise, most blessed and highly favored for she has placed her trust in the Lord our God and Savior.
The Lord Jesus Christ gave us the definition of a true friend: "Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you" (John 15:13-15). Jesus is the pure example of a true friend, for He laid down His life for His "friends." What is more, anyone may become His friend by trusting in Him as his personal savior, being born again and receiving new life in Him.
There is an example of true friendship between David and Saul's son Jonathan, who, in spite of his father Saul's pursuit of David and attempts to kill him, stood by his friend. You will find that story in 1 Samuel chapter 18 through chapter 20. Some pertinent passages are1 Samuel 18:1-4;19: 4-7;20:11-17,41-42.
Proverbs is another good source of wisdom regarding friends. "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity" (Proverbs 17:17). "A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother" (Proverbs 18:24). The issue here is that in order have a friend, one must be a friend. "Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses" (Proverbs 27:6). "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another" (Proverbs 27:17).
The principle of friendship is also found in Amos. "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" (Amos 3:3 KJV). Friends are of like mind. The truth that comes from all of this is a friendship is a relationship that is entered into by individuals, and it is only as good or as close as those individuals choose to make it. Someone has said that if you can count your true friends on the fingers of one hand, you are blessed. A friend is one whom you can be yourself with and never fear that he or she will judge you. A friend is someone that you can confide in with complete trust. A friend is someone you respect and that respects you, not based upon worthiness but based upon a likeness of mind.
Finally, the real definition of a true friend comes from the Apostle Paul: "For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:7-8). "Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends" (John 15:13). Now, that is true friendship!
These Bible verses can either be used to bring life, love, edification, and encouragement into a person’s life – or bring death, destruction, negativity, and torment.If you will notice, some of these verses have two sides to them. On the one side are the positive benefits and blessings one can receive as the result of learning how to speak properly to others. On the other side are the negative things that can occur as a result.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (Proverbs 18:21)
1. “There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, but the tongue of the wise promotes health. The truthful lip shall be established forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment.” (Proverbs 12:18)
2. “Keep your tongue from evil, and your lips from speaking guile. Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it.” (Psalm 34:13)
3. “The Lord God has given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him who is weary.” (Isaiah 50:4)
4. “Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time. Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.” (Colossians 4:5)
5. “The mouth of the righteous is a well of life, but violence covers the mouth of the wicked.” (Proverbs 10:11)
6. “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.” (Proverbs 16:24)
7. “Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.” (Proverbs 12:25)
8. “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.” (Proverbs 15:1)
9. “Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.” (Proverbs 21:23)
10. “The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil.” (Proverbs 15:28)
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